I recently got an email from a not very nice man who wanted to know why I was bringing down the tone of society by encouraging my readers to be fat. So, instead of getting into an email-argument (e-gument), I decided I would just post my response here - where everyone can see it. Let’s start with point number one - since when do men read my website? haha
Secondly - you sir, are a dick.
And that is the end of my response to him. Why? Because people like that don’t deserve anything better. Perhaps he should have read my article on Why Hating Fat People Makes You an Idiot.
I don’t think there is anybody anywhere saying "you’re only worthwhile if you are overweight". Just like I doubt there are many websites that say its better if you throw up after every meal. Encouraging people to be happy does not mean you are encouraging them to do anything else. If my readers want to be big, I support that. If they want to be thin, I support that. If they don’t know what they want to be but just want to be happy with themselves you better believe I support the fuck out of that. Just because you are different does not make you less & does not mean you need to change. We come here to support each other & to affirm that anyone can be sexy - not just airbrushed models & superstars.
And clearly we are not alone. Our husbands, partners & previous lovers have all enjoyed the way we looked. This lady right here, who seems to have dated every gym junky in a 10k radius of my home & office, has never found a man who didn’t want a big ol' slice of Sunny pie. You know why? Because you CAN be big & sexy. You CAN totally rock an outfit that makes men drool. You CAN be anything you damn well want to be and nobody is allowed to tell you otherwise.
People like to put others down and I don’t know why but it seems to be our nature. I hear endless stories of women being told they should 'do something' about their weight and that the person is simply trying to 'help' them. Let me tell you something - there are plenty of ways to help overweight people without being a massive bitch. You could ask them to join you on walks, you could show them some of your delicious low calorie recipes or heck, you could just accept that it’s their life and none of your damn business.
We have a choice about how we deal with these kinds of critics - we can sit there & take it or we can look them in the eye and say "I'm sorry, I must have misheard you - because I'm sure you would never have said anything nasty like that to a friend" and watch them squirm. Most people don’t like being called out on being a dick. Probably because they know they are being a MASSIVE one. People don’t react anywhere near as nicely when you give THEM advice on how to change themselves so they fit your beauty ideals better. But you know what, it’s got to be said. At some point you have to stand up for yourself, and those like you, and say no - that is not an acceptable way to treat me because I'm goddamn brilliant.
Anyway, this has *kind of* turned into a rant... so I guess I'll wrap it up. But basically I wanted to say - Don’t let the haters get you down! I'm always here if you need someone to talk to (click the email button in my signature) and we are in this TOGETHER.
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